So in light of my argument that women and men can be friends, I've received responses from women about the type of men they have and keep as friends. After speaking with several women, I realized there is a pattern in the type of male friend that we have. From these conversations, I came up with five different guys every woman should have around them.
I know, I know. Some of you may be thinking that this treads on the friendship border into unknown territory, but it really doesn't have to! Sometimes it's great to have someone to flirt with. There is a mutual respect and understanding between him and you, that it doesn't need to be taken that far if both of you don't want it to. It's great to hear compliments and to give them with the physical appreciation lingering between you two. Who knows, maybe this friend is the one you'll end up with. They say it's better to be friends first right?
The Gay Bestie
It's 2017. If you don't have a gay best friend, then you're missing out! I LOVE my gay friends! They give the best dating advice, help you pick outfits, and even better, they're blunt, just like I like them! If you find a loyal friend, they will defend you to the end. You get to avoid all the female drama that can be overwhelming and unnecessary, while vibing with someone's energy you truly enjoy. They give the best compliments too!
The Big Brother
It's nice knowing that you have someone who loves you and is looking out for you. As a woman, yes, we can defend ourselves and handle our business, but to know you have a "big brother" just feels more settling. They also give great advice and can give you insight on the guy you're thinking of dealing with. You can vent to him, he can meet you for drinks, and ensure you get home safe without all the fuss of a typical "hook-up." These Big Brother types can learn how to treat a lady from the advice you give them. This relationship is beneficial to you both!
I have no clue how to put a bookshelf together. Nor do I know how to handle the tools that could help me to complete the task. This is where Mr. Fix-It comes in-the guy you always call to help you put up paintings, pick up heavy objects, and just do general labor that you need help with. What makes this guy interesting, is how happy he is to help! It's as if he enjoys that "superman" complex in helping a woman in need. I've seen men call their other friends together and tackle projects for a female. I find it hilarious, but also comforting that there is still chivalry, in some aspect, alive.
The Party Guy
We all know that one guy who is at every FETE! He knows about every party, he was/is a party promoter, or just knows enough of them from all the parties he's gone to. I don't care what kind of female you are; You. Need. This. Man. In. Your. Life. (insert black girl hand clap between each word.) These are the ones who lift your spirit, who encourage you to get out of whatever funk you're in, and you are guaranteed to have a good time without feeling the pressure of hooking up with him. They know how to make you laugh, and you get to relax!
Now I know some male friends can take on several roles between these 5 descriptions. But it is worth it to fill every needed spot in your life with this kind of support! Try it and tell me I'm wrong!