Cut It! (Friends, Pt. I)

These days it seems impossible to be able to share your good fortune with anyone you love. My mother, grandmother, and culture have taught me to always be careful who you say what to. You can never be certain if a friend is really an enemy who hates hearing about any good that is happening for you. Social media does little to help in these situations simply because people tend to portray and write what they want others to believe; and others actually believe in it 100%! Those who are genuinely excited or happy in their statuses can't even feel the envy of others because 9 times out of 10, they are expecting their friends to share in their joy.

So you believe in the phrases, "Good/Positive Vibes Only", and "Good Energy Only."

But for every action, there is a reaction, so hopefully awareness of bad energy is also noted. 

Why do we hold onto friendships that are unhealthy?

Friendships can be fragile as it travels through time. We make friends at one stage in our life, and as we grow we realize that what we used to have in common no longer applies. I've had harrowing experiences with people I once would have died for (had being the operative word). Lately, I can feel myself being careful with whom I share my experiences or good news with. Despite how happy people may seem, their bad energy does not lie. Believe it or not, this energy, whether conscious or subconscious, can and will affect your life. 


I do understand that some of these relationships are lifelong. You've known each other since you were kids, blah blah blah. Friendships like these, I keep on a cool shelf. Every once in a while we can go out to dinner and catch up. You may even get a text or two, and if I'm feeling generous, a phone call. My answer to their questions is always "Fine." I give them no ammunition to shoot their bad energy at me with. 

It's okay to feel or not to feel guilty about keeping away from certain friendships. You have to cultivate relationships with those who wish you well, those you can pray with, those who are just as happy as you are when you share your joy. The question to ask yourself is; What are you sacrificing to keep these friendships alive and why?