A topic was brought to me that has randomly popped up over the past couple of years. I have a mentor who constantly tells me I should date older man and forever pushes the lyric of "It's better to be an old man's sweetheart, than a young man's fool." I have friends who will only date older men. There is plenty of evidence that supports dating someone who is older, but is it truly worth it?
A nod must be given to the knowledge that women mentally develop faster than our counterpart. In this scenario, a woman is looking to date a man around her age. Depending on her standards, most men end up coming up short, whether in maturity level, finances, emotional intelligence, etc. Older men have the appearance of experience, wisdom, and theoretically are more stable when it comes to relationships.
For men, dating an older woman is sometimes the ultimate goal. I feel as though men tend to date women who are younger, but then get upset that she's more immature than he thought. The older woman has the appeal of being more grounded, willing to hold her man down and/or can provide for him in ways that he can't provide for himself.
On the flip side, older people in relationships can be more controlling. They can demand more of you than you have to give and force you into situations you weren't ready for.
I've dated men who were younger than me, and I would be lying to say that at the time, it didn't bother me. When I was younger, I looked older, and now that I am getting older, apparently, I look younger. Placing an emphasis specifically on someone's age does not always mean that he/she is the one for you. If you were born in the Millennium generation, look to your left and look to your right. We are beginning to understand that there is no age to maturity, stability, or experience. We are the generation learning to express ourselves while at the same time learning that life can not be placed on conveyor belt and handled in an orderly manner.
It doesn't bother me as much anymore if I date someone younger than me. I still place a cap at a certain age for my own purposes. But I implore you, my fellow brothers and sisters, to look for more in a person than what year they were born compared to yours. What matters is how you connect with the person and where you can see yourself going with that person. What matters is how that person makes you feel, or how much your face hurts because they can't stop making you smile.
If everyone thought deeper about who they were with, why they were with them, and were more self assured, we all wouldn't worry about the woes of dating someone older or younger than you.